Leanne Yau
non-monogamy educator and queer sex therapist in training
About
Leanne Yau is a British award-winning content creator, certified sex and relationships educator, writer, and trainee sex therapist whose work is all about non-monogamy and sex positivity. She draws from her lived experiences as a polyamorous, bisexual, neurodivergent, and Asian agender femme who has been openly non-monogamous since 2016 to bring her audience educational and entertaining multimedia content about creating healthy and sustainable non-monogamous relationships. Since 2020, she has connected with millions across the globe, whether through her social media posts, online and in-person talks, workshops, panels, and lectures, in the media, or her private non-monogamous peer support sessions. She also writes ‘A Polyamorous Perspective’, a polyamory advice column at Gay Times.
Leanne was named in ‘15 LGBTQ+ Educators Who Took Instagram Infotainment To The Next Level’ (Buzzfeed, 2021), '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok' (Cosmopolitan, 2022), and ‘60 Top Influencers Who Are Actually Worth the Follow’ (Men’s Health, 2023). She holds a Special Recognition and Appreciation Award (The Panel ENM, 2021), and was nominated for Sex and Relationships Creator of the Year (BCreator, 2024).
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Client Testimonials
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[Leanne] was the perfect mentor to help me break through this toxic emotional pattern. My session with her guided me to several pivotal realizations about myself and the source of my jealousy, as well as providing me several concrete recommendations and resources to help continue to address and dismantle it going forward. It was absolutely worth it, and I look forward to future sessions with her.
- MADISON
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I came with looming questions about my disclosure agreements, how to navigate dates with my nesting partner and to feel at ease with my metamour and left with a lot more clarity around how to move forward. I would highly recommend Leanne to anyone who is navigating a polyamorous scenario with ease.
- SLOANE
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Leanne provided emotional support, validation and resources for what we had been going through, and gave my partner so much good advice and a long list of resources tailored to their exact needs. We left the call feeling refreshed and excited to move into a new, more trusting, deeper polyamorous existence!
- ZIRI + PARTNER
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My polycule has been struggling to find meaningful insight into a communication issue we've been having. We've tried group therapy, individual therapy and trying to work through it ourselves. This is the first time I feel like I've been given a flotation device that is operational.
- NEKO
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As a cis-man with deeply ingrained mono normative beliefs, I was a bit nervous going into the call. But Leanne put me at ease and it was a very safe space. She made me feel both simultaneously normal, while also pointing out the areas where I could challenge my beliefs. thanks, Leanne!
- RYAN
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I don't think I could say enough about how truly wonderful and helpful my session with Leanne was. Since the session, I've had several conversations with my partner that have strengthened our communication and relationship in ways I didn't think possible.
- REIKO
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Leanne strikes a wonderful balance between comfort and professionalism. Our session felt like talking to a friend that is experienced, insightful, and confident in their knowledge. I feel like I made more progress in one hour-long session with Leanne than I did in 2 months of weekly sessions with my regular therapist. She gave me smart, actionable advice that I believe could make a real difference for me. I look forward to coming back for more sessions!
- GREG
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Leanne, just wanted to say your session gave me the freedom to shout in my heart "I AM ACTUALLY NOT CRAZY!!!!!!" That was TRULY amazing. I'm still having big smiles until now. It is so freeing to know that what I am feeling is valid, is legit, and I am only human! THANK YOU for being such a safe space! ❤️
- SAKURA
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My session with Leanne was very beneficial and cathartic. To be able to talk to someone who is so knowledgeable and wise, as well as queer, was extremely helpful for my situation. I could tell her advice was coming from years of her own experience and that of helping other clients. She gives it to you how it is, which was very refreshing. She’s very friendly and funny as well :) would highly recommend!
- CORI
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Leanne is one of those people who can take your concerns or worries or even your crisis and apply reason and experience to create a solution, or at least a path forward. We've only talked once but it was wonderful to have an experienced voice to listen to, and to have her third-party perspective which can be incredibly hard to find concerning the subjects that we need to talk about.
- JUSTIN
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Leanne is enormously helpful, kind and compassionate. The professional service that is offered is delivered using clear, direct communication and demonstrates a rich understanding of relationships, communication and complex emotions. I would highly recommend Leanne’s service to anyone who would benefit from targeted specialised support around non-monogamy, relationships and disability.
- SOPHIE
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Leanne is very compassionate and insightful. I was (and currently still am) struggling with a very complicated situation and her insight gave me the push I needed to take the steps I need to be on the best possible path to resolution, if not for my relationship, but for myself. Leanne instills a surprising calm that I so desperately needed on all of my recent chaos.
- IRIS
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Leanne was very understanding and empathetic of my and my partner's struggles navigating a mono-poly relationship. Talking with her was a perfect balance between working with an educated relationship mediator and feeling like chatting with an old friend. She is very skilled at reframing negative thinking patterns into positive ones while still validating the raw emotions that cause thinking traps.
- ELLEN + PARTNER
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Leanne helped me to unravel my thoughts around boundaries, and what is acceptable for me, and what is not. I never felt judged. Her support was objective and practical and basically facilitated me to form my own conclusions.
- JAZZ
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Talking with Leanne was such a relief! They provided different perspectives in reviewing my present situation, and had amazing suggestions for questions to ask my monogamous partner. They were very warm and validating of my experience, as well as knowledgeable. If you're feeling stuck and unsure of how to find a poly lifestyle for yourself, having a consult is absolutely worth it.
- MADDI
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Thank you so much for the fantastic chat. As someone who is new to poly, yet experienced in ENM and currently going through a lot of heartbreak and confusion, talking with you really helped put a lot of things into perspective for me. I really appreciate the time and patience you took to listen to my very complicated story!
- PRAD
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Asked thoughtful questions, remembered things I said and brought the discussion back to them, and helped me to think deeply about myself and who I am as a person and who I want to be. I feel that this was a helpful supplement to my regular therapy sessions as well. 10/10 would recommend.
- KRISTEN
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Having recently opened up my relationship with my partner as a first step to poly, I encountered a challenge that I found really hard to deal with. Leanne held the space very well, listened attentively to me, and offered non-judgemental guidance and support. I found it helpful to speak to someone who has had a range of experience with polyamory and will most likely be back for more sessions! Thanks Leanne.
- LIBBY
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It felt so good to be able to recount my story to someone who really understands and wasn't going to judge. Leanne listened attentively and was able to suggest several things I hadn't thought of, as well as confirm some other things that I secretly thought myself. I came away from the session feeling unburdened and that my voice had been heard, that someone understood me. Highly recommended!
- DAVID
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I recommend Leanne to anyone needing advice or a listening ear! Leanne was so considerate of my experience level being a beginner at both polyamory and hookups. She gave thorough and detailed advice for my situation that was informed by her real life experiences and also tailored to my experience level.
- SARAH
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It was such a smart move for me to reach out and speak with Leanne when I decided to open my relationship. She is tremendously intelligent and knowledgeable, kind, and helped me to clarify important next steps to reduce disruptions to my mental health and relationships as I move forward. I feel way more empowered 💜
- LISA
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I did a 30-minute peer support session. Leanne was quick to assess the issues at hand and deliver guidance that will support me in moving forward with healing my relationship with my partner and myself. Even better, she followed up with an email full of resources that I can use to continue the work. Thanks, Leanne!
- JEREMIAH
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I felt listened to, empathized with, and heard. She gave me options of what she could provide (a listening ear, or solutions), which was extremely helpful. She made me feel that my polyamory journey wasn't black and white, but rather shades of gray and everything I was feeling was perfectly okay. I would recommend her highly!
- CRISTINA
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[Leanne] is so insightful, well-educated, and holds a phenomenally intersectional lens to the emotional experience of individuals and relationships. There was not an ounce of judgement from her, and I felt wholly met for exactly where I was at. I am so grateful and can't thank her enough for sharing her wisdom.
- MADISON
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Leanne has a way of breaking down some weighty concepts in a way that my partner and I both equally find accessible and easy to understand.
- JC + PARTNER
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Leanne is completely amazing. This was the best support I have received on the topics I brought up, which I am not able to discuss with many people as they are sensitive topics. I'm so glad I placed my trust in her. Before the session, during, and after, she was so responsive and insightful and caring. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
- SARAH
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I felt safe talking with Leanne about my relationships and confident I would receive an informed, non-judgmental response. I started our session feeling confused about multiple themes and left the session with a plan. Following our meeting, Leanne sent me a detailed follow-up email with additional resources for me and my partners. 10/10 peer support experience!
- RACHEL
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I very much enjoyed being able to hold and share space with someone who understands this part of me. The reassurance and validation I got in this session was invaluable! This session helped me understand my needs more clearly and gain courage in communicating this to my partner. Thank you so much!
- ALEX
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Our peer support session made me feel so much better about my current situation. It made me feel a lot more in control and secure about my feelings. I would definitely recommend it to anyone who needs some support or advice!
- ANONYMOUS
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Leanne was knowledgeable, compassionate, and affirming. She asked clarifying questions when appropriate and offered a valuable objective perspective. - AURORA
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Cannot recommend higher. Leanne is an excellent listener and challenged me with insightful questions and interesting observations. An invaluable resource.
- ROB
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I felt very validated and listened to. You set up space for me very clearly and guided the discussion thoughtfully. As someone without much of a poly community (yet) this was an incredibly valuable conversation for me to have.
- NICOLE
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This service is priceless. I felt welcome, not judged, and carefully listened to. I got given detailed references and actions to think and do to move on. I just feel so relieved, and ready to do some homework with my partner.
- JULIA
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Leanne is a wonderful resource for someone just learning about polyamory. Without her, I would be completely lost without next steps and resources. She is a kind human being and incredibly patient. I am so appreciative for the service she provides and will likely be returning!
- TQ
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After our session, I finally felt confident enough to speak to my partner about exploring non-monogamy and it went so much better than I could have expected. I’m really grateful I found you and there were things you said that really put things in perspective for me and my partner when I reiterated them.
- GLORIA
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Great value service that really helped me think through my problems and come up with solutions. Made me feel very comfortable with talking about things and gave some resources to look at after which was great. Would 100% reccomend.
- AMY JANE
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Leanne is incredibly empathetic and knowledgeable. Getting a third-party perspective from someone who 'gets it' is so so valuable. I would certainly recommend her to anyone feeling a little lost or overwhelmed.
- SM
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Leanne was super helpful with their advice and tips! She really helped me break down a complex issue I was having into simpler more manageable questions to ask myself, and even helped me find the answers. My concerns were very delicately handled and I’m very happy with how the session has gone.
- JASMINE
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Leanne was super personable and a great listener. I felt comfortable with her from the start. Her insight was exactly what I needed and I could confidently make my next moves/decisions based on her advice. I left our session feeling so much better! I am 100% scheduling a follow-up with her about this and honestly, she is just great to talk to.
- KARISSE
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Leanne is direct, compassionate, and extremely knowledgable about relationships. I appreciate her ability to distill her perceptions and advice. Highly recommended.
- JOHANN
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Leanne helped me process through a difficult breakup/relationship transition when I had little direction. She talked through what was going on and provided some likely tips on what might come up in the future. I got a lot of value out of just one session.
- M
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Leanne was an amazing adviser. I was scared of sharing my fears and insecurities, but she was understanding, not judgmental at all and full of practical concrete suggestions (not cliches or abstract comments). I also appreciate her follow-up email with resources, and how she seems to really care for me and my partner.
- KARLA
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Talking with Leanne really helped me to ease in to what might be a hectic next chapter in my life. I came to her with just basic idea of what the poly lifestyle was like and she helped paint a picture of all the things I didn't know while leading me to resources that will help me learn with confidence. I look forward to this journey and appreciate the conversation.
- JC
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My session with Leanne was quite validating and helpful. I feel more secure in the decisions I've made and where I'm at emotionally, and have more clarity regarding how I can improve my communication and better advocate for myself in the future. She listened to my situation with compassion, asked thoughtful questions, and suggested actions/resources to help me reflect and move forward. Thank you!
- KARA
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I had a great experience working with Leanne! She was really insightful and helped me gain perspective about some of the things I've been dealing with. I also really appreciated that she gave me a thorough list of reading material specific to my situation, and a bit of "homework" to do. That helps me feel like I can put energy from a difficult situation into something that helps me grow!
- TYLER
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I needed another perspective on my situation…and Leanne responded to [it] with such empathy, insight and professionalism. I was then able to make the right decisions for myself and the future of my relationship with extra clarity. Anybody seeking advice on polyamory or relationships in general should ask Leanne.
- HANNA
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In our 30 minute chat, Leanne unlocked several doors of thought processes for me. Her wealth of knowledge and experience had me quietly sobbing onto my keyboard. 100/10 recommend.
- MONICA P
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Leanne was able to crack me wide open and help me navigate big feelings and personal conflicts effortlessly. I felt seen, heard and understood in a non-judgemental space. I felt immense relief and clear in my next steps.
- MORGAN
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Leanne was really helpful. She listened to what I had to say and gave a second opinion on the thoughts I already had. She spoke with clarity and didn’t beat around the bush whilst still being kind. It was nice to get advice from someone in the community and she gave heaps of recommendations for reads that were specific to my situation.
- CASS
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Our support session felt like a hug. You helped me a lot in my process of allowing myself to be human and understand this unpleasant feelings as part of the human experience. Also the reading recommendations you gave me are golden, thank you so much!
- CLAUDIA
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Leanne offered some great insight and asked really thought-provoking questions that gave us both the prompt we needed to assess our feelings. With some new understanding and a place to start, I feel a lot more confident going forward. We will definitely invest in further sessions with them and we're both really glad to have found them.
- HAN + PARTNER
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You helped us feel secure in a moment of uncertainty, and we really appreciated you being there for listening and advising.
- MAURIZIO + KRISTIN
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Leanne is compassionate and has a great sense of the motivations that might be behind a person's behavior, which made discussing sensitive topics incredibly easy and helpful. She's insightful and thoughtful, and had a lot of excellent advice despite my incredibly vague questions! She had great examples relating to my situation.
- ROMY
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I found consultation very helpful during my painful breakup with my partner. It gave me to see things from another angle and understand that not all blame was on me and I was actually doing not so bad in my poly journey.
- NATALIA
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I absolutely recommend doing a session with [Leanne]. Just one session and I feel like I have a game plan and a better understanding on how to move forward concerning my non-monogamous lifestyle.
- BD
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Leanne not only provided resources and guidance for someone who is new to the world of polyamory, but she (perhaps more valuably) lent a listening ear. It's tough to be an outsider in your own community, so gaining her perspective and advice was exactly what I needed.
- SAMANTHA
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I am deeply grateful for the hour I shared with Leanne. She created such a safe space for me to explore my current relationship struggles as I navigate my sexuality and introduction to polyamory. I was very nervous, but by the end of the session felt much less alone, and well supported, and seen. I highly recommend Leanne's support - she is really kind and wise!
- MAGGIE
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This was an amazing session. I was supported to really dig deep to find out the root issues and given follow up actionable steps. I'm glad I booked a session and will again when difficult moments arise.
- DEE K
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You created such a safe and judgment free space for me to talk about polyamory and some of the struggles I've been experiencing. Leanne’s own personal experiences with polyamory helped to give perspective and knowledge to my situation. It was so insightful and greatly appreciated! 10/10 would book again.
- LEAH
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Leanne is super professional and insightful and quick to the point. I got the clarity I had been seeking for weeks with a quick, simple, 30 minute Zoom call. Definitely worth the money. They’ve read more than 30 books on poly and live polyamorously so they’re definitely qualified to talk about poly.
- SAL YUE
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Leanne is great! She is really easy to talk to and brings a lot of knowledge and resources to the table. I’m really grateful that I booked a session with her because she brought a lot of clarity to my relationships. Highly recommend if you are Poly, talk to a professional who is also Poly. Thank you again!
- EMILY
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I had a wonderful experience talking to Leanne. I am relatively new to the world of non-monogamy and she gave me space to tell my story. She was direct and helped me navigate to what my actual concerns were. Leanne provided her insight, but listened for what I actually needed. She also provided some great resources at the end of our session.
- HART
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Leanne was extremely helpful in addressing my questions and assisting with how to frame conversations with my partner(s) in the future. She kept the conversation focused and made the best use of the time possible. I left the conversation feeling more confident about my needs and how to communicate them!
- ALICIA
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The peer support session was extremely helpful! I am most excited to be directed to resources that will help me with relationships as they twist and turn into new directions. For me, it is important to have a sounding board that I know is impartial when I’m sorting through my own ethics and values around relationships. I highly recommend!!
- ARI
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Our session with Leanne was grounding and helped move us through difficult conversations around our feelings and differing views on polyamory and monogamy. It’s helped us give context to our feelings and we are able to build on what we talked about outside of the session.
- KB + PARTNER
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I felt seen and heard talking to Leanne. I don’t have many non monogamous people in my life to talk to, so it was really nice to get some guidance and perspective from a third party. Leanne also provided a ton of resources for me to continue on my journey. Definitely time well spent!
- LEO
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After pouring my heart out about a situation that I'm in, [Leanne] got back to me on every point with a new perspective and valuable resources. She really took her time and it gave me two big discoveries that helped me a lot on my journey to NM.
- ROSA
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As a newbie in the community starting my ENM journey, coming across Leanne's blog and resources has been such a gift. Having her on the other side of the screen with her amazing listening skills and wonderful empathy was a godsend after encountering some bumps on the road. Looking forward to diving more into all the resources she sent me and learn more from her. - PATRICIA
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My session with Leanne was very good and I was often pleasantly surprised by her perceptive nature and some of her insights, before I even gave her all the information, and given that it was our first meeting. I also received a very helpful list of tailored resources from her. Would surely return for another chat.
- BROWN
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Leanne was absolutely great. She is an excellent listener and highly perceptive, so she gets to the bottom of the issues very quickly and is able to share some very valuable perspective and resources relevant to the topic. Would highly recommend.
- LEON
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[Leanne] listened in earnest and made recommendations that not only made sense, but were very clear and approachable. I feel more confident in myself and my polycule situation because I feel like I have someone in my corner.
- JONAH